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[Video] Herpes facts
I’m on a mission to dispel the lie that herpes is something to ashamed of. I’m committed to helping people who have herpes realize that their lives can be just as normal and awesome as they’ve ever wanted. Instead of trying to change culture, all we have to do is wake people up — one at a time — from illusions and false ideas around what it means to have herpes in the first place. And one of the ways to do that is through education.
The reality of herpes is not what most people think. So we’ve prepared this short video as a basic overview of some important herpes facts and perspectives to set the record straight.
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Here’s why you suck with herpes
“You suck. You’re worthless. You won’t find someone to love you. Who would possibly accept you with this disgusting H thing? Who are you kidding? You should give up — right now!”
Sound familiar?
Let’s get one thing perfectly clear: I’m not the one saying all these nasty things to you right now. No, no, no — I couldn’t be that cruel even to my worst enemy! Based off of so many people I’ve talked with in our Herpes Opportunity forums, our Herpes Opportunity weekend workshop and private coaching clients, I have heard this kind of junk coming straight out of their own heads! And I assume that on some level that kind of smack-talking is going on in your head … right … now.
So what’s the answer to why you suck?
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Why a herpes cure wouldn’t have helped me before now
Guest author from our community: Beckie
For years, I found ways to deny that I have herpes. My first herpes outbreak was brutal and traumatic, but after that, I never had another herpes outbreak. At the time of the onset, I was in a committed relationship with a supportive partner. And because I wasn’t having any outbreaks to remind me I had herpes, I did a very good job of forgetting about it. And even when I did feel occasional tingling, itching or discomfort, my mind didn’t immediately think it was related to herpes prodrome symptoms — I just brushed it off as nothing.
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[Video] Brenda (aka “Whoopsidaysi”) talks about her transformation
Guest author from our community: WhoopsiDaysi
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” — Anais Nin
I would be lying if I said getting herpes was the best thing to ever happen to me. Much like I would not say being divorced was the best thing to ever happen to me — three times. (But that is another blog altogether.) What was the best thing to happen to me though was what I learned from those experiences. As painful as they both were to deal with, and as much as I thought “my life is over” after each event, I realized that hidden within those experiences were lessons waiting for me to learn. I learned we are the masters of our destiny and also of our mind. We choose what we think, how we feel, what we believe, and how we are going to react in any given situation. The experience of having herpes is no different.
How Beckie cured herpes shame in 2 months
Guest author from our community: Beckie
I have had a quantum shift since finding Adrial a few short weeks ago via his Herpes Opportunity interview on The New Man podcast. Like, we’re talking “skies-parting-angels-singing-miracle” shift here. Finding and listening to that podcast was surreal. I was blown away with Adrial’s courage to face his herpes diagnosis head-on, and then, to turn around and do something transformative with it. He did something unfathomable to me given the level of shame I’ve carried regarding having herpes for over 5 years. I’ve been able to shift a lot of things in my life through diligent inner spiritual work, but not this. Not this deep, dark secret named herpes. I didn’t have a template, a mirror, the way. Until now.

[Video] Growing through the yuck of having herpes
Guest author from our community: Ashley
It is easy to get sucked into the negative when you get a herpes diagnosis. I remember the day that I was diagnosed. I was at the health center at my university and I had the most horrific first herpes outbreak anyone could imagine. Two solid weeks of not being able to sit, lay down, use the bathroom, or shower without excruciating pain. Not to mention the accompanying nausea, fatigue, and general feelings of misery. The nurse gave me the diagnosis and I felt my heart hit the floor. Who would want me now since I have herpes? With shaking hands I dialed my then boyfriend’s cell phone number. “The rash I have? It’s herpes,” I said, cringing with every word. “I had a feeling that’s what it was,” he replied calmly. “Are you mad?” I asked. “No sweetie,” he said, “you’re still the same person you were an hour ago. It’s just herpes. It’s not life-threatening.”
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[Video] Celebrities with herpes?
Guest author from our community: Ashley
My plan this week was to write a blog about celebrities with herpes (oral or genital). It was my hope that by putting additional faces (especially famous faces) to this condition, we could feel a sense of camaraderie. I hoped we would be able to see that there are plenty of successful people with herpes and seeing that would give us hope. I underestimated the power and bias of the media. The media is to celebrities with herpes as society is to individuals with herpes. Mean, nasty, hateful, and just plain not nice. I had no idea what I was in for when I started researching for the article. Step one: Google “celebrities with herpes.” Here’s a partial list …
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Could you use herpes to empower your life?
Guest author from our community: Lively
Some people feel they are at the effect of life. Others feel they can deal with anything life throws at them. Most of us move between one and the other as we grow and learn. A new challenge can overwhelm us for a time … until we learn how to deal with it. Once we know how to do that, it can be a very short time before we forget how demanding the learning was, and what it took. This may include courage, tenacity, stepping so far outside our comfort zone that we can’t remember where it was before, the willingness to expose ourselves, be vulnerable, accept our imperfection, even (OMG!) allow others to see and accept our imperfection.
So in the midst of dealing with the shadow of genital herpes, we find this website where some crazy guy is calling it A Gift. An Opportunity. How does that work?
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5 herpes facts vs. fictions
Guest author from our community: Katie S.
Once upon a time, I was a 25 year old shameful woman who started making up fictitious stories. I was diagnosed with genital herpes, and told myself that life as I knew it was over. I was such a convincing story teller; that I made myself believe I wasn’t lovable, I had to live in shame, and that nobody would understand what I was going through. My story telling was leaving me feeling depressed, confused and hopeless; and I was driving myself out of my mind. After a while, it became time to “face the facts” about genital herpes. Little did I know that understanding the seemingly terrifying “facts” actually meant helping to free myself from my horror stories. More >
What I wish I knew when I was first diagnosed with herpes
Guest author from our community: WhoopsiDaysi
I can remember when I was first diagnosed with herpes. It was around December 3, 2011. I had a few things come at me – I became an empty nester and about six weeks later my husband left. My life was turned upside down, to say the least, and then I got herpes symptoms that would suggest my worst nightmare (probably as a result of all the stress I was feeling). I tried to ignore the symptoms for a few days, tried my own remedies, tried to rationalize that it was nothing, but eventually I gave in and went for testing because it wasn’t going away. I wish I would have known then what I know now …