Herpes simplex virus 2 (HSV2) is more commonly known as genital herpes. Herpes simplex virus 1 (HSV1) is known as oral herpes or simply “cold sores.” Genital herpes is only spread through skin-to-skin contact. Herpes can lie dormant, which is why even if you’ve never had an outbreak or haven’t had one for a while, it can still be spread (this is called “viral shedding”). Over 25 million Americans have herpes (16% of Americans age 14-49), but 80% of people don’t know it. The most important part , though, is for you to realize this: you are not alone and you are still just as sexy and vibrant as ever. Don’t let herpes hold you back. More >
I’m sure by the title that you already see the connection with the video I’m about to share and the focus of this blog. The whole “if it doesn’t kill you, it’ll make you stronger” phrase holds perfectly true here. And what Stacey Kramer was faced with was an actual life and death situation. Really makes me think about the power of perspective. What do you think? How do you define a “gift”? I’m reminded of a quote by someone who really knows his stuff, Albert Einstein: “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Where are your miracles?
Genital herpes in women is more common than in men. In the United States from ages 14-49 years old, 20% of women have genital herpes while only 11% of men (Genital Herpes – CDC Fact Sheet). That makes an average of all Americans in the same age range to be 16%. There is more of a chance of a male passing genital herpes to a female than female-to-male because of there being more exposed mucous membrane. Interestingly, there is a wide variation when race is taken into consideration. Specifically, 48% of black women have genital herpes; overall, 39% of blacks are infected compared to about 12 percent for whites, the CDC said. (Reuters). More >
I’ve heard it talked about as “the dreaded talk” but it doesn’t have to be so dreaded. Unless you make it dreaded, of course; it’s your decision. It really comes down to your own perception on what “the talk” is all about. If you convince yourself that the talk is bound to end in rejection, it’ll have that flavor; on the other hand, if you go into the talk dedicated to trust and authenticity, you can’t go wrong. This doesn’t necessarily mean that all the talks will end in flowers, rainbows and unicorns, but your personal values shine brightly. And the herpes talk actually has quite a good chance of bringing you closer together in the process. So a lot of it comes down to how you perceive the talk. Is it a dreaded rejection-maker or is it an opportunity to go deeper into relationship showing trust, authenticity and vulnerability? More >
Who am I? What am I? Am I my personality? Am I the successes in my life? Am I the failures? Am I some combination of all of that? I’m starting to realize that all of those questions are secondary to the primary question of simply being. And that speaks to the separation between ego and “beingness.” Herpes has been just one tool in my life for helping me recognize this on a deeper level. More >
There are two types of herpes, HSV 1 and HSV 2. But they’re just two strains to the same herpes virus. One strain has no stigma whatsoever and the other has entirely too much. Can you guess which is which? More >
Short answer: 16.2% of Americans ages 14-49 have genital herpes. (80% of Americans have oral herpes.)
Want to see the herpes pictures? They are at the bottom of this article. But please, be a doll and read the article first, will you?
There’s a very interesting yet completely natural thing we do as humans: We compare. So, the first thing I did after receiving my positive diagnosis to the herpes test years ago was to rush to my nearest Google search bar and type in “pictures of genital herpes.” I wanted to get an idea of what my future situation was going to look like by looking at other people’s situations. And what I found didn’t get me too excited about my future with herpes. But come to find out … most of my worrying was pointless. More >
A sizzling sexy relationship — even contending with herpes — is in your future. And it all starts with your relationship to what herpes means to your sex life. 1) Is herpes a sex killer or 2) does herpes give a new perspective on trust, caring and support in relationship? Can you feel that difference? That is the first part of seeing it as a relationship strengthener. Sound a bit backwards? You’re gonna love this. More >
Can you get herpes from drinking after somebody? Can you get herpes from sharing towels? From sharing bathwater? Can you get herpes from blood? Can you get herpes from toilet seats? Can you get herpes from shaking hands or cuddling? The clear and resounding answer to all of these is simply NO. More >