When is it safe to have sex?!

This is somewhat of a loaded question, and one I realize no one can answer 100%. I had my first outbreak the beginning of June (first outbreak but I've apparently carried gHSV1 for an unknown amount of time). Everything has healed visibly and has been for weeks. I was on suppressive valtrex and just switched to acyclovir Thursday. I thought valtrex may be causing me to have what felt like prodromes on a daily basis. I still have an occasional tingle/zing daily so far even with the switch in meds. And a random feeling of an itch here and there but that could be a normal itch, who knows. My question is, how can I tell when it's safe to have sex?? I really, really want to be intimate with my fiancé again and every time I decide I'm going to I feel a zing and get too afraid. I know there are other options for intimacy but this has been going on two months now and I would love the intimacy of sex again

My midwife says she thinks the virus is active and said it could take a period of time to settle down. She gave the example of a woman having weird feelings for a year before it "settled down", I said "so I can't be intimate for a whole year?" She said "I'm not saying that" but couldn't give me a clear answer as to when I can safely be intimate :(

Could I really be contagious/the virus be active every day?

Has your Fiancé been tested? HSV1 is more common.

@Bria that is the struggle at the moment, getting him to go and get tested. I would feel better knowing whether I have to worry about transmission or not, and he's going to get tested, I just have no idea when

Is herpes considered dangerous, the opposite of safe?