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  • Hey Max, I'm sorry that you have been feeling depressed, scared, lost and hopeless. That makes me feel sad to think you're going through that. You are right that loving ourselves is a work in progress. It's a daily practice. Have you ever thought …
  • :-bd yay. Glad it went well!
  • Whoopsidaysi, "I think some of us feel guilty when we're being kind to ourselves and feel like we just need to "suck it up". I know for myself, I need to be as kind and loving to myself as I am to my friends." yes! yes, yes, yes. You're so right. …
  • That is beautiful that you are happy for your sisters. I've been reading a book called the Mastery of Love. And I've been getting some wonderful life lessons from it. Our love and happiness need to come from within ourselves. It is so easy to look …
  • Great questions. Even if you are having an outbreak, a guy can't get it from fingering you. I suppose the only way that could happen is if they finger you and then directly put their hands on their genitals. A good hand washing should do the trick…
  • Aahhh yes. I just love this conversation. I'm taking it in a little bit different of a direction, but only because this reminds me of an article that my friend, Dave wrote. The article is entitled "Why finding the right man isn't working" Some key…
  • Welcome Shannon, and thanks for sharing. Whatever it turns out to be, I just want you to know it's not the end of the world. Although it felt like the end of the world at first, I've come to find out after a year of having herpes, that it's actuall…
  • Thanks for sharing Angel
  • Jassabell, Hi. So its only been a week, huh? I'm so happy you found this forum. Way to take care of yourself, finding community and answers I'm happy that you have your sister for support too! It can be really nice to have a shoulder to cry on, …
    in My Story Comment by Cedar1122 May 2013
  • Yes, yes. I totally hear you. I went to a therapist one time and didn't go back. There's just so different ways to process everything, and I think that therapy is a great choice. It wasn't my choice after I tried it out, but who knows what your expe…
  • Sjj, I feel for you. I feel protective over you, bc I know what it's like to get herpes from a hookup, and to hate myself for not being more considerate of the consequences. I imagine that you're feeling drained, fearful, and confused about what he…
  • yes. yes. yes. Thank you WhoopsiDaysi. Beautifully said
  • Thanks for the positivity Dom I wrote in a blog one time something that pertains to this. It was about a favorite quote of mine "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending." - Maria Robinson. I …
  • Nice to have you here, Ben. -Katie
  • Hi Derpes, I am not sure what's causing sex to be difficult, but I really doubt that it's due to a herpes outbreak 4 months ago. I'm surprised that you even tried lube and that didn't seem to help. hmm... I've just never heard of herpes having that…
  • Hi Sayyywhatt, I'm sorry to hear about how stressed out you are, and I want to reinforce the fact that you're totally not alone. CR_19 wrote a beautiful response, and I just want to chime in and be a part of the conversation. Like CR_19, I've had…
  • Saliha, Great questions. And unfortunately, I don't have great answers- but wanted to offer what I do know. Herpes can be anywhere that the virus has been exposed. So, I don't see why it couldn't be on your bikini zone. My friend actually just dia…
  • Kottonkandy, I am right there with you. This sounds very confusing. I would call the Dr.'s office and have the Doctor explain it to you. They are saying that you don't have the virus, but you've been exposed to it.. this doesn't make any sense in…
  • Beautiful I am so happy for you. What a breath of fresh air to get honesty from someone like that. A little glimpse of what we're providing when we disclose. No matter what their response is, we're giving them the gift of choice. So nice when i…
  • Hi Who, I'm sorry to hear that this is happening in the 1st place, But I'm happy that this is happening now rather than later. Herpes really is a huge test that's used right in the beginning to see what degree that people are willing to be open to u…
  • Hi KitKat, I love the acknowledgement of the forum. Adrial has done a really great job, and it's such a breathe of fresh air to be able to connect with people who have gone through similar experiences, on a subject that can make people feel very al…
  • Hi Bonafiderarity, Wow. This really does sound confusing. It definitely sounds like the 3rd doc got HSV and HPV confused. There is only HSV1 and HSV2. I'm really confused about your blood tests. It came back just as HSV? Not 1 or 2? And one perso…
    in New Comment by Cedar1122 March 2013
  • Bittersweet, Hi. I totally feel you. When I had my 1st outbreak, I did not see any bumps, and the burning lasted me a good 3 weeks. What I wish I knew is that the 1st outbreak is always the worst, and None of the other OB's should be that bad. You…
  • Hi Stubborn, You've come to the right place. I'm happy that you've found this website, and are asking these questions. I'm with you on feeling frustrated that there isn't more information out there. Cool is though, that a lot of information is here…
  • Feeling uplifted right now. I'm celebrating with you right now. Your post is a wonderful reminder of things I can do to help create the life I've always wanted for myself. I've got get affirmations back on board. Thank, thank you
  • Butterfly, Herpes is certainly noooottt a reason to end your life. Over 25 million Americans have it. Think about it.. if everyone who had herpes ended their life, 16.2% of the population would be wiped out. It certainly wouldn't want to be a world…
  • Thanks for sharing Jessi, It sounds like it was actually an opportunity for you guys to be closer. I'm sure he appreciated the honesty and vulnerability, and sees you on an even different, beautiful level now. hugs -Katie
  • Hey Stephanie, I haven't experienced headaches with acyclovir, but I wonder if taking advil or tylenol with it would help prevent the headache?