5 year anniversary with HSV2

I found out I have HSV2 almost 5 years to the day. I wasn’t exactly promiscuous but I wasn’t exactly careful either. I met a very healthy and attractive man. We began casually dating and about a month later we had sex. A few months passed and I went to my OB for an annual pap. while there I showed him a small rash I thought I had from shaving. He said it looked like herpes. What? You can get it there??? So naive. I was tested and the blood sample came back negative whew! A few months later I got another rash this time painful. Did a swab and bingo! You have HSV2. I went to my boyfriends (oh yeah we’re a thing now) and told him what happened. He whipped out his cock and showed me he had a rash too! He cried and Called me a filthy whore and look what I did to him! Tears were streaming! He was an athlete and this was a big shock to his immune system. He was with the same person prior to me for 7 years and she was the second person he’s slept with. How could I have done this to him? I felt terrible couldn’t believe I had hurt someone I cared for. I was so ashamed. For 2 years I was berated and reminded what I had done to him whenever we would argue, he held Herpes over my head. I don’t live in a huge city but it’s not a small town. I had lunch with a friend and mentioned I had a suspicion my boyfriend was cheating on me. she confessed she knew he cheated on his ex as well. With a little FB research I emailed his ex and we talked. I told her how he became abussive over the past year mentally and now physically. I needed to know I was not the only one he could treat this way. At first I blamed myself because of the guilt of giving him Herpes. But then, After two years I felt I had enough belittling and did my time. We talked for a good 30 minutes and at the end of the conversation she mentioned his Herpes. What!!!! How could she know??? You guessed it. He had it all along. I was so blind by my guilt I couldn’t see the deceit and lies he told me. He took the opportunity instead of telling me the truth to turn it on me and made me believe I gave it to him!

2 years later I began dating someone else. I told him before being intimate my story. I get outbreaks here and there but when I do we are safe as we can be. He knows there’s risk. But at least I was honest.

Wow that's so disgusting, he's a horrible person to have u think that, and didn't even disclose to you, people like that will never get anything good in life..

@lifegoesonn I agree. I mentioned it in my other post but my current boyfriend and I are engaged and have a baby. Baby came a little earlier than planned ;) Life definitely goes on. My take away is it was all meant to happen.

That's amazing congrats on the engagement and the baby :)