I haven't disclosed with someone and we got mildly intimate.

I feel kinda bad.

First things first, I'm a woman who dates other women. I have genital herpes, hsv2.

I've been talking to a woman for about two weeks now. Last night she invited me over and things got heated. I told her I didn't want to to do anything below my waist. So I kept my pants on. She kinda grinded on my stomach without underwear and then I performed oral sex on her. Although I don't believe she is at risk since she didn't touch me and I dint touch myself, I feel horrible because I know that I should of had the talk with her before becoming intimate.

I'm thinking about telling her today. I could really use any support or advice because I'm really nervous.

Kim,

I think you're okay as she did not have contact with your lady parts. I'm assuming that you don't have outbreaks on your stomach. Additionally, if you don't have HSV-2 orally, you should really be alright. If more than anything, your morals & integrity are making you experience anxiety.

Why worry about it? You performed oral sex on her and aren't worried that she might have genital HSV1. My point is, it's really not a big deal, it really isn't.