Update on my disclosure for my herpes opportunity peeps

I disclosed successfully.

Story:

I was ridiculously nervous. The making out started.. fourth date.

I said, "Him (name undisclosed). I have something I need to share and it will take me being vulnerable. I carry HSV2. The herpes virus. I break out on my arm. I have had long discussions with my doctor about being on suppressive meds and knowing when I'll break out beforehand and what that would mean for my partner. My doc says there's less than one percent chance I could pass it to you. I don't want to do anything tonight because I really want you to research it until you know and understand about it. Please ask me any questions and I'll find the answer. I really think this connection will go somewhere and trust you to trust me."

Next date. Him, "I researched it because I knew it was important to you. I had a call a few years ago from a GF who said she had it after me. For all I know I already do. I trust you regardless."

Success.

Fully in it, dating. And, lovin' it Keep hope, loves. Stay tuned ;)

Awesome my friend! Another success story! Yippeeee!

One thing - It sounds like he carries the HSV virus BUT it doesn't sound like he has been tested, so he wouldn't know which HSV virus he has nor would he know where he carries it. So please, my friend. Play safe. And before it gets too far, I'd suggest a talk about getting FULL STD testing for BOTH of you (I know you are likely up to date but it takes the pressure off them to know you are doing it too).

You are here because of a non-sexual encounter... the rest of us aren't. I just want to make sure that you do what you can to protect yourself :)

((((HUUUUGE HUGS)))) So happy for you!!!

Thanks, Dancer! xxx Mine actually was from a sexual encounter believe it or not. It just doesn't choose to go in the Netherlands so to speak. My doctor said it's just the nature of the virus, it chooses a spot and just stays there. I have even heard of a woman who broke out only on her ear. Crazy! I've had it for seven years this May and aside from the first time, it's always been on my arm.

Ah - so you had an OB on your genitals on the first OB?

I thought you got it from someone else who also had it on their arm...maybe I'm confusing you with someone else :/

So many folks on here now, I have a hard time keeping track some days :p

Yes and yes ;) It's wonderful how many people are here nowadays. Such a great community of support. Have a great day, Dancer!

Alright! So, Nic has confirmed that my strategy of auto-inoculating my ankles may actually have some merit to it. Hell to the yeah!

Crossing fingers. I can live with blistery ankles.

Herry-My doctor actually used ankles as an example of another patient she sees. It's a crazy little skin condition :)

Good to know there's at least 3 of us. We're part of an elite club within the HSV community. We're the intrepid explorers who have this virus. "Oh, you have HSV on your genitals? How cute and perfectly normal. I get mine between my toes, on my ear, and just look at my elbow!"

I'm so happy for you, Nic! Enjoy it. Soak it all up. Love and be loved. Ahhhh. :)

Thanks, Adrial. I'm happy for sure.. soakin' up the love :) sharin' it too :)