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Need someone to talk to? Herpes buddies!

Hi (h) community!

Before posting here, please read our community guidelines:

I'd like to open it up to our community to post to this thread to find your own (h) buddy!

This is all about one-on-one live support, talking about something that for the most part isn't talked about. Simply talking about herpes with another person openly is healing and normalizing. Shame can only exist in the shadows, when it's not talked about. As much as typing out your feelings helps, I'm excited to get this community connecting on a more personal (live) level.

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STEP 1: Post what you would like in a buddy in this thread.

SUGGESTIONS: Post here whether you'd like to have a buddy that's ...
- male/female
- in your area (if so, where do you live?)
- need support or would like to give support
- any other qualities you're looking for in a buddy

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STEP 2: Private message whoever is a good match for you.

You can scan this (h) buddies thread and private message anyone who you're drawn to buddying with to either talk on the phone or Skype. Simple. :)

NOTE: PLEASE do not use this thread to market to people or otherwise spam them. And if anyone gets any message like that, please let me know ASAP so I can toss that offender from the boards. ;)

By the way, check out the video I put together about the H Opportunity weekend. Gets me choked up every time I watch it. :)


  • edited January 2013
    Hey! What a novel idea?!? You've personally put me in contact with two lovely ladies near and far from me, and for that I am thankful :)

    I would like to offer up my support to anyone, male or female, who is interested in an HBuddy. This is code for, "Pick me! Pick me!". But seriously, I find that although I'm not the one to be shouting my STD status from the rooftops perse, I can and will do my part to be supportive through an email, text, phone call, coffee chat, whatever the scene might be.

    I've had H for 7 years this month, happy anniversary to me! Where does the time go?? I was a young college coed without a care in the world, until bam. Herpes. I was 19, and was sure my dating days were being marked with a tombstone already. I can read from the various discussion boards, that we all come from difference places. Some chose love over herpes and were left with the bill afterwards, some were duped by someone they trusted.

    Though it's not as widely publicized, I know that there are those of you out there who got herpes from rape, like myself. Can we say double whammy? I'd like to especially reach out to those people in this forum. We are trying to heal on two fronts and the more love the better I think :)

    Here's a little quote to round out my comment: “Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet. Much love y'all!!
  • edited September 2012
    I think this is a great idea as well. I would love to have an HBuddy.

    I am very new to this, so I may not have very much valuable experience and knowledge to give, but I can offer my love and support to anyone who needs it. I am a great listener. I also just started school for Social Work, so I think this all ties in together.

    Anyone can feel free to send me a message as well :)
  • This is a great idea! I'd love to have an h-buddy that's close by, or in my area anyway, male or female; no preference just someone to talk with or listen too. Thanks for putting this idea out there! Sign me up!
  • Same for me. Count me in.

  • I'd like either a male or female buddy in the Los Angeles area. Would be really really helpful ... I need support, so I'd to talk to someone who's been dealing with this for awhile. I'm female. THANKS!
  • Sounds Great! Although I'm only 2 years in, I would love to be a support/have a buddy. Because I know from experience that giving and receiving are really the same thing.

    I live on the East Coast. I know having a similar time zone often makes it easier to connect. Sharing the journey makes everything seem brighter. xo
  • edited September 2012
    sign me up. I'm a gay male in NY. i'm okay with private messaging. i have no gender preference and distance is no issue--although it be nice to meet for coffee--but is all good :)
  • Sounds good! Hook me up ~O)
  • I'd like both a male and female buddy in the Los Angeles area. I need support so I'd to talk to someone who's been dealing with this for awhile. I'll talk to anyone by email if you want but I'd love to actually have coffee with someone in LA area. I'm female. THANKS!
  • This is awesome! I hope we can all find a buddy that we can confide in and get support from :)
    I live in Ontario, so if anyone does too, feel free to send me a private message!
  • edited September 2012
    This is exactly what I needed to find today! I've had hsv for almost 4 years and just ended things with my boyfriend/ father of my child of over 3.5 years. I thought finding love would be impossible and then I found him and then I forgot about coping with the herpes because I found someone who did not care. But now I'm single and the stress and depression from it is really coming on hard and need someone to talk to. I'm from Mn and would like a male and female buddy.
  • edited September 2012
    Hey Kaande05 and welcome!

    Have you downloaded the free e-book yet? It's a great introduction to all the work we're doing here and the positive community we're building. Here's the link to that: http://eepurl.com/b4IPP

    ... and I'll private message you about us talking. I like to connect one-on-one with all new members to this site. Looking forward to talking soon!
  • edited September 2012
    I would also like a buddy, male or female. I'm in Canada on the east coast. I would love to have someone to chat with. I'm female.
  • I would love to have a buddy in the Phoenix area. I do not have a gender preference. I was diagnosed with HSV-2 on Sept. 11th
  • I've been living with HSV-2 for over 20 years. I contracted it along with HPV from a guy I I was dating in college. That being said, I've been asymptomatic for years, but that does not exclude me from the disclosure talk. I've just recently had a very bad experience disclosing to a frightfully uneducated potential partner. It totally sucks to be rejected, but please always remember, they reject the HSV-2, and not you. I'm looking for buddies in any age range, any gender. I would be more than happy to mentor anyone, but would really love a woman in their 40s to help each other over this particular challenge.
  • edited September 2013
    i would like a buddy, male or female, st. louis. just a message to talk would be awesome.
  • I'm soooo far away to meet up but if anyone wants to private message to talk too I'm here:-)
  • edited September 2012
    i would like a buddy too- can be male or female! I am in the Tucson, AZ area. Preferably someone around college aged and they can private message me as well :) I'm female.
  • edited September 2012
    I would be open to finding a buddy, male or female in the Chicagoland Area. I'm male.
  • edited September 2012
    If anyone needs a buddy in Canada Edmonton would be cool. I would gladly accept a friend.
  • I would want to have a buddy to learn from or educate, preferably female in the South Florida area, I'm a guy so I would like to hear things from a woman's perspective.
  • Hey guys! Fairly new to the forum.... just finished talking to Adrial (I'm a total fangirl now!!!)I and about to disclose TOMORROW. (Still have the jitters!!) I'm 21, have no gender preference and am in the cincinnati are but spend a lot of time in chicago area. I've had HSV2 for 5 months. I will post about this sunday morning.... hoping (and pretty sure) it will go well!
  • I wouldn't mind someone to talk to, sounds like a great idea. No gender preference. I am a 24 year old female in West Central Florida.
    It would be great to have someone to vent to, or to help out. Someone around the same age. I've been handling things well, but I haven't had to disclose to any one since I'm fresh out of a relationship. Eventually that time would come and I'd personally like to have someone there to talk to who has been in the same situation, male or female.
  • i would love to have a buddy, i'm in NC... the gender doesn't matter, im a female... i have hsv2. i'm 30 years old
  • Hey, I am totally new to this site but would love to have an H Buddy. Male or female, just someone to chat with. I got the official diagnosis this past December but have suspected for many years (read: in denial). I think I got it from someone who told me he had it. Didn't really know what I was getting in to but it is what it is. Herpes has felt like the worst thing ever and has also been a huge blessing. I have met some amazing people as a result. I am 47 years old, divorced and my son is all grown up. Age is not an issue, just someone to connect with. I have HSV2.
  • Hi! I just found this site last night - great idea. I have lived with herps for 26 years after getting it from my first intimate relationship at 19. I have two children and have been married twice - and to my knowledge have not passed this on. I have been through the emotional roller coaster of dealing with this and still ride it occasionally. I have always been one to disclose and know the stress, pain, and benefit of that. It has become a bit more aggressive over the last three years and am now battling to suppress with meds. Being in a relationship, I can't say that I don't stress over every twitch, tingle, etc. If anyone else has had it change aggressively after many years, I would sure love to know how you cope and regain control. :)
  • edited October 2012
    Hey, I'm 23, female, and just found out at the beginning of September that I have HSV 1. I'm getting better at coping with it.. but I'm super new to this as well. However, I wouldn't mind a buddy to get, give, or receive, advice and support. <3 Also, I'm in the GTA.
  • Hey, Smilesfordani, I'm in Cinci too! But if anyone wants a penpal, I must confess a weird yearning for letters...
  • I haven't been on here in a while so I'm just seeing this. I would love a buddy! Gender doesn't matter but it would be great to meet up with someone in person. Though phone/email would be cool too. 29/f/Denver. Get in touch!
  • I want to reach out to some of you but how to choose if you only know the city and not much else about the person? So I thought maybe I'd tell you about myself and if I sound like someone you would like, please email me! My name is Shannon. I'm in Los Angeles. I'm 39 and single, no kids. I've been involved in the alternative/goth/club scene for 20 years but that's not all I'm about. But it does play a factor with the H because going to clubs centers around being sexy and I've had a hard time feeling sexy because of this condition. I'm an avid reader, especially "kids books" like Harry Potter. But also love the True Blood books and many others. I'm a bit of a nerd in my tastes in movies and shows. I dress in a lot of vintage clothing and love to buy antiques for my home. I love Halloween, collecting Barbies, Disneyland, my Doggie, sushi, dancing and I have a very twisted sense of humor, almost nothing offends me. (I Just saw Book of Mormon and found it very funny and actually made me respect Mormons even more rather than make fun of them). I'm a loyal and honest friend. And I'm very social and open. My life is pretty good compared to so many others... I go out a lot, have a great job, freedom, etc but no love and now have H from an "interesting situation". So...If any of you find my description of me intriguing, email me please! I'd like to make some real friends. Shannoncj@hotmail.com or on this site.
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