herpes talk went well - how to I not pass herpes?

Ok so I've been dealing with a lot about having herpes.. N I am ok at this point that I have this special thing about me... I'm kinda feelin like it gives me a great reason to go slow n not commit until I really know this person is the one.. I know I was suppose to think like this before.. But here I am now... So the reason I am posting is because I've talked to someone I am interested in.. N he has accepted my disclosure very well.. N is still interested also... But the problem I am having is I am really confused on how not to give it to him when we are ready... I want to be so educated to the point where i can be very aware of when I am having or starting an outbreak.. Or when I am shedding... I really don't want to give this gift to anyone.. I'd really appreciate any advice so that I am really careful when I tak these important steps.... It's in my future to be sexy again.. I just want to be safe n sexy...:0) please any information will be greatly appreciated.... In my mind loving myself comes first n foremost!!!! Much love to you all...